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Fully Absorber in the Now.

Watching the action.

Watching the action.

“Jack!”

I put the finishing touches to the picture.

Fully focused on what I am doing and thinking of nothing else.

Now I think I’ll pencil it in the calligraphy, then I hear but am not listening.

“Jack!!”

‘Then see how it looks before using the ink.’

“Jack!!!”

I am aware of the irritable emotion but answer without thinking.

“What’s the problem?”

“You are the problem, I don’t know if you can hear me or are ignoring me.”

“I am absorbed, doing some art.”

“Can’t you just say YES so I know you have heard?”

Aware I am getting annoyed, I should have done my little, count to ten, few deep breaths, unmindful I just respond.

! YES! YES!” Then I realise I am losing my temper.

“Just go back to your art sorry I interrupted you!”

 “No I want to know, should I ring the fire brigade or the police what is the emergency?” That was I realise nasty, sarcasm.

“It is not important, I just wanted to know where you hid the rake, it is not where it should be kept.”

“Sorry, last time I saw it was when we were mulching up the pruning.”

“Well it is not where it should be kept.”

 I am trying to recall what happened.

“I was raking up the last of the leaves; yes, you called me to help put the tarp around the mulching machine. Have you looked in where the mulcher is?”

“No, did you leave it there?”

“May be I was raking up and you asked me to help you with the mulcher I probably just put it down without thinking, I remember putting my gloves back on the bench but can’t remember what I did with the rake.”

“You remember all that but can’t remember where you put the rake.”

“Well I was not thinking at the time I was running on auto pilot, unmindful just responding not fully aware.”

“What’s all this living in the now you have been reading about?”

Two minutes later “I found the rake, where you left it in by the mulcher.”

“That’s great, come and have a look at what I’ve done.”

“I like the surfer catching the wave, but what has that got to do with the writing,

“We only have one moment to live and that is NOW.”

“Well the wave is passing but the surfer has caught it, he is living right in the now.”

“And you left the rake in the past.”

“Let’s not live in the past”

“If you want to live in the now, be mindful of where you leave the rake in future.”

Some times we get dumped.

This is the drawing I was fully absorbed in.

 

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We will start off cool.

We will start off cool.

Habitual walking.

Cool morning Yoga meditation on Bondi Beach.

Cool morning Yoga meditation on Bondi Beach.

Habitual walking is not as Thich Nhat Hanh, in his beautifully written book “Peace is Every Step.“ describes walking. What he describes is actually walking meditation. If you are an active person you may prefer this rather than sitting.

Some habits are not wise.

Some habits are not wise when you are not so sure-footed.

Mindful walking is a cognitive process you are conscious and aware. If we repeat anything often enough it becomes a habit. This is very useful it enables us to become skilled operators. As long as we do not get too inattentive and become prone to problems.

It could have been worse.

It could have been worse.

Habitual actions describe how we fly through life in a fog. We do not actually see where we are going we are traveling on auto pilot. Our thoughts are on some thing in the future or past, not focused on what we are doing.  Meditation teaches us how to stay focused. Those thoughtless actions are the cause of pain and suffering.

A stitch in me wastes time, but helps healing.

A stitch in me wastes time, but helps healing.

The Buddha Siddhartha Gautama said the first step on The Eight Fold Path is Understanding, next is right thinking the next that automatically follows is right actions. Then he discusses right occupation The Buddha is only interested in getting you into a good job. By good he means harmless and beneficial.

This is a good clean job, not paid for sitting down.

This is a good clean job, paid for sitting up.

You may be more interested in getting a well-paid occupation. I would also advise doing what you enjoy to earn an honest crust. Then making dough is a pleasure. People often say what line of work are you in. They used to say out on the construction site, “What’s your game, mate?” Back then, in the good old days, before tight safety regulations took the virtuosity out of it. I would say, “I am a rigger.” I loved my high position looking down on everyone. I was a young show off and got my thrills riding on the crane hook.

Climbing up steps to operate a tower crane, we used to use the hook and climb in the window.

Climbing up steps to operate a tower crane, we used to use the hook and climb in the window, in the good old days.

The young extroverts today (I dare not call then show-offs) have to hoon-around to get a buzz. Putting the public in danger and they do not get paid for it. Instead it costs them, for petrol their motorbike or car and on top of that they get fined.

The police love hoons, they are keeping them in a good exciting job.

The police love hoons, they are keeping them in a good exciting job.

Well I suppose they could say, “It is better than walking.”

I should have been walking.

I should have been walking.

The next steps to consider are right effort, right concentration and mindfulness, not to stepping off the path. It is human to be unmindful and inevitable to step off the path. When we take a wrong step it is no good placing blame or fretting. Just pick yourself up and try again. The same as you do in meditation when your mind wanders.  You can falter but never fail to try.

It is safe in a sheltered harbour but ships were not made for that.

It is safe in a sheltered harbour but ships were not made for that.

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Waves like Queen 'We will rock you.'

Waves ”We will rock you.’ like Queen.

Mindful.

Some can handle the waves.

Notice some can handle these waves.

Aware, alert, focused and attentive all similar words but the word mindful fits what I am writing about. To be mindful of our thoughts and emotions and the effect they have on our wellbeing. We need to understanding how a sensory perception or a subliminal perception triggers a thought in our mind and gives rise to waves of emotion. with this understanding we pause before these waves break.

Stay safe ride the waves to the beach.

Stay safe ride the waves to the beach.

A thought has no power of its own, till the person experiencing that thought grants it the power. Discernment is needed before we act on a thought and the emotion it gave rise to. Mindful of these thoughts and emotions, pause and realize the feeling being experienced. Unmindful of strong emotional waves breaking in our mind, we are like a ship in heavy seas off a rocky shore. Aware of these emotions in our mind we have the power to steer clear of the hazards that can wreck our life.

These wawes can be handled.

These waves can be handled.

Aware that a wide range of thoughts and emotion can be prompted by our daily encounters. We are mindful of what is harmful and beneficial sensory input. What we surround ourselves with will reflect our thoughts, in a positive or negative way. Life today is full of distractions to be wary of, negative media reports and entertainment and unethical people create negative emotion. Such as impatience, anger, jealousy, hate, and other unhelpful emotional states to enter our mind. If mindful we pause and correct these negative thoughts. To be conscious of impatience and realize it is unproductive and if unmindful develops into anger. If anger is not controlled, like a fire it burns the one closest to it. Why do we upset ourselves in this way?

A fire out of control.

A fire out of control.

In heavy traffic impatience and anger often get out of control. Curtsy and consideration are The antidote. If someone lacks courtesy, anger is not the answer. Consideration is the answer. Perhaps the driver is under life threatening pressure, probably not, but to assume so is to lower our tension. Life is not always to our liking. We must be cooperative and obliging, going with life’s flow. Thoughts give rise to emotions, watchful of these thoughts and arising emotions gives us more control over events in our life.

Stopped by Bushfire.

Stopped by Bushfire.

Aware, alert and focused is not all, we need mindful as well. Aware and alert can avoid an accident but if we are not mindful of our thoughts and emotions we could react in a foolish way. By honking the horn in anger, alarming other drivers unnecessarily, or stick our arm out the window to make a rude gesture at the offending driver, thoughtless of passing vehicles. Unmindful we have lost our composure and our focus on what we are doing.  Letting the outside sensory perceptions run our mind unconsciously is to be out of control. Mindfulness is the first step in taking control of our life.

Natures restful cathedral.

Natures restful cathedral.

Meditation helps one understand how thoughts can disturb us. In breathing meditation when we are concentrating on the breath we should not be upset by invasive thoughts, this is how we learn to let thoughts come and go while staying focused on what we are doing. We become mindful of what is important to us in the now and, unflustered, can return to our practice. This is the way to become tranquil and undisturbed by the unimportant.

reflect on a peaceul mind.

Reflect on a peaceful mind.

Where do these invasive thoughts come from? If they are prompted by a noise directly experienced that is obvious. Some time they are a mystery. In our quiet secluded well-chosen meditation sanctuary, a gentle breeze touches us softly bringing the fragrance of frangipani. Concentrating on our breath we are only subliminally aware of the breeze and the scent but a thought from the past comes into our mind. We have a lifetime of memories waiting to be aroused. Mindful of pleasant or unpleasant thoughts we stay focused not distracted in this way we learn self-control.

The frangipani sent Pauline the thought in prompted.

The frangipani scent prompted the thought of Pauline.

Impatience, anger, hate and thoughts of revenge are not going to help anyone. Instead we can feel sorry for the drivers with problems. They will have  accidents hurting their self or someone else. Actions always have consequences and thoughts come before actions. Those wild, angry, hateful thoughts and actions will one day hatch into monsters that will bite the one who gave them birth. No need to be the judge and executioner that is a thankless task.  Kind and caring thoughts and actions will enhance our life. Meditate or sit quietly and think about being aware of emotional states as they arise in the mind.  Emotional states shape our life. To be mindful and have control of our emotions will bring peace into our life.

Devilish thoughts.

Devilish thoughts.

 

 

 

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Instead of asprin.

Instead of aspirin.

Intercourse by any other name is not the same.

Takes two to Tango.

Takes two to Tango.

Have I lost my sense of humor, not up with the play, or unsympathetic with the lazy and ignorant? I admit I have no time for the lazy. The ignorant may be excused for thinking intercourse is a dish served in between entrée and the main meal or as a tit-bit to nibble on, before getting their teeth into the really satisfying main course. Some men may think that foreplay is the footy team singing the national anthem before the game commences.

A prickly seat.

A prickly seat.

That may be funny but there is no hilarity in comedians and people in general using gutter language, repeating the same inappropriate word over and over. I find this boring. No pun intended, although a hole has to be bored for the screwing to take place. There are people disturbed when sex is mentioned even for legitimate purposes. Some people are reluctant to discuss sex with their children. This could be one of the causes for the generation gap.

Mongo the mouse maller.

Mongo the mouse mauler.

Today people are mostly lazy when they do not use the appropriate adjective. There are educated people who know better but think they need to speak this way to show they are uninhibited. What they are doing is setting a bad example and degrading the language. These short abrupt words used inappropriately have lost their shock value. In times of utter frustration we now have to hit out or mash something, when a shocking word would have been sufficient.

He wood nototch speak.

He wood notch speak.

Get out of the habit of lazy bad-language, try to speak, not only truthful, but respectful and mindful of the feelings of others. Harsh disturbing language is unbecoming and disrespectful. If you want respect you must be respectable and considerate. This takes mindful thought and practice to enhance our reputation. Most arguments are caused by misunderstanding. Adding superfluous words makes communication difficult.

Fun with words.

Fun with words.

Like, ‘if you know what I mean’, because I do not know what you mean, unless you say what you mean. Our thoughts need to be clearly stated to be understood. My previous paragraph started, ‘get out of the habit’, I was not suggesting you strip of your priestly garments, language can be ambiguous. Get out of your slack tendency of copying people who fill their conversation with ’like’, ‘you know’ ‘sort of’ and ‘know what I mean’. I have noticed sports people generally converse far better than film stars and entertainers. Why is this? Could it be without their script actors are lost for words. Where would a politician be without a script writer? I think that subject warrants another post.

Tired of words.

Tired of words.

We need to make an effort to communicate clearly. When communication breaks down, our understanding is lost. There are no bad words it is where and how they are used that creates the problem.  All words have a purpose; the purpose of the words in this post point out frivolous humor can be conveyed without superfluous offensive language. I could be wrong, but I think comedy can be fun without the unnecessary fill in words. If intercourse was the word repeated over and over, would that add to a joke or a conversation?

Tired ofcomertials..

Tired of commercials..

Television has contributed to spreading bad habits. The TV audience is treated rudely with no consideration, interrupting a program to market products is contemptible. There are few programs that are beneficial or edifying, the biggest percentage shown is an insult to the intelligence. We should be selective in what we watch. If you feed on rubbish you will deteriorate to that level. There is a mute button on the remote so you can talk to your guests while the ads are on. Better still be a good host and turn off the TV.

Big mouth no speach.

Big mouth no speech.

When searching for the right word to convey your thoughts; don’t hum-and-ha be silent and think. You have the words, it is our recall that is the problem, like our computer, where did we file it? It is important to be mindful and recall the right word. When you speak have something of value to say. Our thoughts are private but once spoken cannot be retrieved. The wise often convey wisdom without words.

At the end of the day as they say.

At the end of the day as they say.

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In buddhism a symbol of purity and enlightenment.

In buddhism a symbol of purity and enlightenment.

WORDS OF WISDOM.

Blue ones stand for wisdom.

Blue ones stand for wisdom.

To hear the word noble brings forth thoughts of inspiring deeds of kindness, generosity and selflessness. Just reading these words is uplifting. Words can conjure up all kinds of connotations. Words have associations in our mind that promote positive or negative thoughts. Thoughts give birth to like actions repeated actions become habits that shape our character.

Rising out of the mud to flower.

Rising out of the mud to flower.

A simple breathing meditation using words of beauty, encouragement and appreciation combined with concentrating on the in and out flow of air to and from our lungs promotes a tranquil, calm and contented state of mind. Life is dependent on the breath it is a necessary function automatically done, usually without thought.

Stay on the Path.

Stay on the Path.

To appreciate the life force air brings, consciously take a couple of deep breaths to settle yourself. Then focuses on an appropriate word while inhaling and another suitable word as you breathe out. ‘Calmness’ would be a good choice of words to focus on while you follow the inhalation of air to your lungs think “I breathe in calmness” then as you breath out think ‘I exhale all the tension. You can pick any word you like, wisdom, understanding or nourishment are suitable for the in breath and foolishness, ignorance or negative for the out breath.

Not an easy path.

Not an easy path.

Concentrating on the breath grounds us in the now and using positive words as affirmations in conjunction with following the breath brings self-control. In this way you become aware of the wondrous good in life and learn not to hold the negative emotions within you that spoil the enjoyment of life. People, unmindful of their thoughts, allow fires of hate and anger to flare-up. Those aware of negative, hot emotions can extinguish them and discard negative thoughts as soon as they arise.

A path to a worthwile goal.

A path to a worthwhile goal.

Knowing how to meditate is useless without constant practice. You have to practice till it is intrinsic, second-nature. To be successful in any endeavor practice is essential. This type of meditation plants seeds of goodness in the mind and removes the invasive weeds that plague our mind. As you practice meditation you become aware of those disturbing thoughts that come uninvited, like TV ads interrupting what we are focusing on. To be aware of thoughts and emotions is the first step in taking control of our life.

Flowers  and insacts are interdependant.

Flowers and insects are interdependent.

Reciprocity is one of my favorite words. It is the idea of the ‘golden rule’ expressed in one form or another in all ethical traditions. The modern day version is ‘treat people the way you would like to be treated.’ Equanimity is another word I am fond of because it is synonymous with dignity, calmness and poise. I would like to have these qualities dignity, composure and serenity. These are the words that motivate me and inspire me to be a worthy member of humanity. Alas there is a jester, to put it kindly, residing in me ready to divert me from my noble quest.

Keeping on is a challenge.

Keeping on is a challenge.

Excuse me while I take in a couple of deep breaths then as I inhale I think beauty queens and as I exhale with a sigh I think all things are subject to change, beauty queens are no exception. Then I think I have changed over the years and value other qualities more than superficial beauty. Then I realize I am off on a tangent my thoughts are not focused. I return to my breathing meditation inhaling I think kindness and breathe out all the nastiness.

Where trere are watter lillies there are frogs.

Where there are water lilies there are frogs.

What are your favorite or inspirational words? You may help me improve my vocabulary or give me some new inspiration. Also let me know if this way of meditation is helpful. I am sure there are ways to meditation I have not tried, which could help me. This is not a one-way street the maxim is, ‘it is better to give than receive.’ I am looking forward to some helpful comments, ideas to assist me handle life’s challenges.

My reminder to get back on The Eigh Fold Path.

My reminder to get back on The Eight Fold Path.

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