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A smile and a peace sign make my day.

A smile and a peace sign make my day.

.We are One Family.

A paddle in a puddle make their day.

A paddle in a puddle make their day.

 Happiness is a by-product of having a purpose in life. Combined with the understanding life is not perfect. Seeking lasting happiness in an imperfect world is unrealistic. Pleasures are fleeting but understanding brings contentment.

Nourishment is important.

Nourishment is important.

 If we expect a pleasant sensation to last for ever we are in for disappointment.

Safety is important.

Safety is important.

Nothing lasts forever everything is subject to change. To be at peace we must not be over possessive it will bring sorrow. Let the caged bird free is the way to happiness.

Everyone is important.

Everyone is important.

To give rather than receive is to understand happiness grows by sharing. Possessions do not bring the joy we anticipated the pleasure soon passes and we are left still wanting.

Love and caring for self and others.

Love and caring for self and others.

An ideal purpose in life benefits oneself first and then extends to the those in our contact and from there radiate out to the whole world. To work on becoming a better person is a worthwhile purpose in life, it is of benefit to all.

Close family James, Jack, Jackson, Jason.

Close family James, Jack, Jackson, Jason.

No one is perfect so we will be busily engaged in this quest to improve. To keep busy enhances happiness. No time to worry about our self. Worry kills happiness and 90% of our worries never happen.

My daughter Vanessa home schools her 5 children.

My daughter Vanessa home schools her 5 children.

It is a win win situation to improve our knowledge and ethics. We are respected by others. Being honest and outgoing, no big ego trips, just being our authentic self improves our popularity with others.

Friends are flowers in your garden.

Friends are flowers in your garden.

Friends enhance our wellbeing, without friends life would lose its joy. We need to value every one as a potential friend. Everyone that comes into our life has feelings and a whole life that we may never know yet they are part of our world.

Everyone is an important part of your life.

Everyone is an important part of your life.

A new word that explains this idea is ‘sonder’.

Hit this link and take part in life’s joy.

Spreading happiness is important.

Spreading happiness is important.

I like this word it conveys my feeling that we are all interconnected and it is ignorance that separates us. So my quest is knowledge and understanding.

The passer by is Sondra.

The passer by is Sonda.

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Memory enhanced.

Memory enhanced.

Click on the link below for the music accompaniment.

SONGS HAVE MEMORIES.

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As I remember we fitted together like a key in a lock. Until the way-would gypsy in me broke the lock that held us together. I was not ready to nest, I wanted to spread my wings and fly. Like the wild goose Frankie Lain sang about, in the 50s. But it was Judith Durham’s The Carnival is over that was haunting me in the 60s those harbour lights had mesmerised me.

We like to think we are wild geese.

We like to think we are wild geese.

 Life is a puzzle, full of ironies, and words are an imperfect medium to explain it. To allowed the monkey in our mind to wilfully swing from thought to thought is not mindful.  When one consciously lets the mind recall the past, or purposely plan for the future, it is alright. It is when we let our mind run on auto pilot and allow our subconscious to take the wheel we are in danger of losing control.

Who wants a better stove?

Who wants a better stove?

Hurrying to the future is prevalent in the technological world of today. Oblivious of our tasty breakfast we gulp our food to rush to a mundane job. Toiling for more than we need, desiring status symbols or devices we are told will save us time. Time cannot be saved; it is a passing thing that cannot be clung to. Aware, but not consciously aware and mindful, mindful is to be consciously aware, not running on auto pilot.

Full of youthful bounce.

Full of youthful bounce.

Knowing I am dwelling in the past is not fretting or regretting, it is recalling those passionate hot to trot youthful days, when love was synonymous with romance, infatuation and conquest. It is good not to forget those days and criticise the youth of today. Our vocabulary has improved now we know the meaning of reciprocity. Aware that true love is giving more than taking. True love is one thing that the more you give the more you receive.

Will they fall.... in-love ?

Will they fall…. in-love ?

Ignorant of the wisdom of the sages passed down through the ages. Back in my youth I had two gypsies in me, called curiosity and adventure, goading me on. The warm bed the tender caresses forfeited for faraway fields. There is no remorse, only a bitter sweet feeling of what might have been. I am sure I did the right thing; I needed to grow in understanding.

You see a lot when you travel.

You see a lot when you travel.

Traveling alone in foreign lands is the best teacher one can ever have.

May be this is your Christmas wish.

May be this is your Christmas wish.

In my memory she will remain a golden haired girl full of life. In reality I can imagine a grey and wrinkled woman. Our memory can span the ocean of time but an ocean of water has flown under the bridge since the 60s. Perhaps after a long tiresome journey she has gone home to rest. To be a billion dust-mites floating on the morning breeze to sparkle in the morning sun as new life.

A lovely person from the 60s.

A lovely person from the 60s.

Who knows?

I will end my love story here I have revealed enough. I have given you more than you realise, if not what you expected. Sorry if the ending was not a wonderful exciting climax. But this is not a TV romance made to make millions. It is just a story similar to many stories that leave us wondering.

This is the fruity ending, not as you pictured.

This is the fruity ending, not as you pictured.

 

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Furry nice blanket.

Furry nice blanket.

What do you want?

She was drawing a heart on her hand.

She was drawing a heart on her hand.

I would like to weave, warm, woolly, words, into a blanket to protect and comfort you on a cold dismal day. To do more than please you, like the fleeting pleasure of youthful love. Like those wonderful shooting stars of pleasure that burnt out in our atmosphere.

They look stable and contented.

They look stable and contented.

Happiness is more stable than pleasure. Happiness is where the bubbling mountain streams combined their strengths, flowing together forming the source of a mighty river. Sharing and appreciating all that passes. Happiness is living with love.

 Happy and couldn't care less what you think.

Happy and couldn’t care less what you think.

To know pleasures pass and although happiness can stay with us to the end, the end is inevitable.   This is not a morbid way to think, it is a fact and when realised, brings joy. Understanding our life is passing, we stop cling to the fleeting pleasures and share happiness and good fortune.

Sharing there joy with "Mustang Sally.

Sharing their joy with “Mustang Sally.

Loving and sharing is the key to the treasures of happiness and the joy locked in life’s treasure chest. Life’s treasures cannot be hoarded in a bank to appreciate. They must be shared to appreciate and be appreciated by everyone, to bring peace and contentment to the world.

I good way to spend the day and you don't need a lot of money.

I good way to spend the day and you don’t need a lot of money.

Wisdom is knowing as the poet said “Pleasures are like snowflakes on the river one moment white then lost forever”. Letting go and sharing brings happiness.

The closest to snow in Queensland.

The closest to snow in Queensland.

Desiring more is disastrous; wanting is the problem child that is conceived of lust. The offspring of wisdom is contentment.

This is not the Suwannee River.

This is not the Swannee River.

Wanting for nothing, ironically, is to have all we need. The struggle for more never brings lasting happiness. Luxuries and status symbols are not necessary. Understanding this promotes love, happiness and contentment. Appreciating what you have, is to be wrapped in a blanket of contentment, protected from the cold, outside world, warm in your inner world with peace of mind. You cannot control the outer world; you can control peace in your own mind.

Keep it wall in balance.

Keep it all in balance.

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All colours are beautiful.

All colours are beautiful.

We are one but we are many.

"Smile Sweetie you are on 'candid camera'. so are you baby."

“Smile Sweetie you are on ‘candid camera’. so are you baby.”

 The Canberra Floriade was a joy not only because of the flowers. The weather was perfectly  tempered warm sunshine. That made the flowers dazzlingly brilliant in a beautiful area by the lake. Everyone was in a friendly mood that match this spectacular free show.

Life is a picnic to enjoy.

Life is a picnic to enjoy.

There were people from many different lands all mixing friendly and happily. Australia is a multi-cultural land. I was reminded of the song ” We Are One But We Are Many”.

Their love shows.

Their love shows.

I took almost as many photos of people as flowers. Because I knew I would do a post showing how we are really all brothers and sisters.

They are bubbling with love.

They are bubbling with love.

We all enjoy  Natures beauty, we all feel the same joys and the same sorrows.

It is times like the Floriade that we forget our problem and unite in the appreciation of our good fortune.

I hope this post with my poem spreads the goodwill felt on this wonderful occasion.

A loving scene.

A loving scene.

 Consider, Consideration.

Beautiful flowers every to look at.

Beautiful flowers every to look at.

No one is bad for having a different view.

I do not want to change the world it is such a lovely place.

There is something we may want to change and that’s the human race.

Slow down life is not a race,

we all end up in the same place.

This was taken at the National War Museum.

This was taken at the National War Museum.

If I raise my voice in an angry shout,

Tell the people what it’s all about.

To argue fight protest and start a war.

These things have all been done before.

To let them be is a good decision.

There can be no war without division.

Slow down and enjoy.

Slow down and enjoy.

The whole cosmos is interconnected,

This is a thought to be reflected.

All that is needed is to love one another.

Then a wonderful world we discover.

In nature everything changes,

Nothing is lost it just rearranges.

Our body consists of atoms of matter,

When we die those atoms scatter.

Smiling beautifully.

Smiling beautifully.

Wasting time grieving about anger, envy and hate.

Enjoy this fleeting world before it is too late.

Unbiased living, loving, kind and caring.

Appreciate the world we are sharing.

Carried away with flowers.

Carried away with flowers.

Chew on these words of nourishment.

Changing ourselves should be our intent.

We cannot force other people to agree.

Show by your example for them to see.

A load of beautiful flowers.

A load of beautiful flowers.

With this understanding of life,

We are free from trouble and strife.

There is no problem in the world it is in us.

A change of attitude stops the fear and fuss.

Love is every where.

Love is everywhere.

Improve yourself every day.

To show the world a better way

If some are too ignorant to see.

It is their problem, do you agree?

If you know of a better way,

Please do not hesitate to say.

Enjoying life with out a care.

Enjoying life with out a care.

We must stay calm to hear another person’s views.

Be unemotional and put ourselves in the others shoes.

If we could stand in their position.

There would be a whole transition.

Our view would alter in perspective.

We would become more reflective.

He looks happy has he found contentment?

He looks happy has he found contentment?

We do not have to agree,

Only understand and see.

No one is bad for having a different view.

It becomes a problem when forced on you.

Love flowers every where.

Love flowers everywhere.

One must consider with an open mind.

Leaving judgemental prejudices behind.

Weigh up the facts then understand,

You are now right the world is grand.

Happy serving lunch a great attitude.

Happy serving lunch a great attitude.

Take time to consider and appreciate the other side of the equation.

Love, compassion and consideration are all that is needed as persuasion.

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A variety of passion fruit flower.

A variety of passion fruit flower.

Gay or Sad.

Flowers are gay without being controversial.

Flowers are gay without being controversial.

There is nothing wrong with being gay. I used to be gay but now I am sad I cannot be gay any more. To day to be gay you emerge from a cupboard and declare I am homosexual this then makes you gay or happy to be out of the confined space of the metaphorical cupboard. Your unique balance of Yin and Yang, to some people would make you appear as queer as a square egg.  Yin and Yang in Chinese Taoism is the balance of opposites Yin representing feminine things in nature, cool, soft, the moon, Yang the masculine, hot, hard and the sun are examples. Yin and Yang are not actually opposites, one would not exist without the other and each contains some of the other. It is the balance of Yin and Yang that gives all things their unique nature. When you have the Yin and Yang in perfect balance you are fortunate you are in tune with nature.

More variety.

More variety.

I knew a girl named Gay she decided to go into the cupboard to change her name to Sue. Johnny Cash then pulled out of the cupboard a song “A Boy Named Sue.” Another trip to the cupboard for Sue, you could have knocked me down with half a house brick, out she came as Bob. Now she has a job driving a big Kenworth truck, yes girls can do anything. It was not always that way but John Wayne is dead, ‘the little woman’ can do what she likes, we now have power steering and automatic transmission. Men can also do anything now that we have, plastic baby diapers, TV dinners and dish washers. All the labor-saving devices that make house work child’s play. That leaves the children free to play computer games.

Australian variety of Grevilleas.

Australian variety of Grevillia.

We have happy marriages, why shouldn’t we have gay divorces. Why is something as popular as divorce sad? One does not have to give back the wedding presents or reimburse the parents for the cost of the reception or even pick up the confetti. What about the kids? Hopefully the kids now have two homes to choose from and lots more options in playing one parent off against the other. The children also have the legal system to look after their rights. Children are well-informed of their rights; no adult dare lay a hand on them. Even a friendly helping hand can be misunderstood. It is unfortunate children are taught to fear, God and man, when most men want to help and protect children. Lacking the time to take care and teach your children. You think it necessary to teach them fear? I am surprised at how many children grow into kind caring adults, when I consider their role models.

This is a close up of the Crown of Thorns.

This is a close up of the Crown of Thorns.

I am confused, I don’t know if I am Arthur or Martha, figuratively speaking. Actually I am fully aware of my gender. It is whether I agree with the values our society places on possessions and status that puzzles me. I do not want to be taken up the wrong way and it is not my intention to offend those people who are personally affected by an imbalance of Yin and Yang so to speak. There have been, and still are, a lot of talented people. Freddie Mercury, Queen’s vocalist. Remember their hit “Another One Bites The Dust.”? I still love that hit. Freddie made no secret about his bisexuality he actually capitalized on it. As a unique playwright wrote “There is only one thing worse than being talked about that is not being talked about.” That is attributed to Oscar Wild, so is “They are terrible temptations that it takes courage to yield to.” One of his young acquaintances may have said these lines and Oscar took the credit?

It is variety that makes a garden interesting.

It is variety that makes a garden interesting.

We should not judge people harshly just because they are different to us. Nothing in life is simple there are many variables. I hope this post triggers food for thought that prompts tolerance. The modern world is full of diversity and we need to look at everything with an open mind. If a woman drives a truck or a man is a house husband and women set up house together or men kiss on the football field. This is irrelevant it is whether they are helpful, kind and considerate to others that matters. We can have our preferences without condemning others for theirs and this tolerance should be reciprocal.

A Powder-puff Lillypilly.

A Powder-puff Lillypilly.

Sex, Religion, Race or Colour We have this in common we all bleed red.

A visitor to the Powder-puff.

A visitor to the Powder-puff.

 

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I took these photos of the

 Norman Lindsay house and his

 sculptures. At Faulcombridge

in the Blue Mountains of

N.S.W. Australia.

Norman lindsy's sculpture.

Norman Lindsay’s sculpture.

Finding the right partner is not easy.

Home of Norman Lindsy at Faulcombridge.

Home of Norman Lindsy at Faulcombridge.

There are ways to catching the perfect partner. You should have no problem if you are rich and sexy yourself. If not you will have to make yourself more appealing to the opposite sex and mix in the right social circles. You will not find a suitable partner mixing in with unsavory company. To mix with good company you will have to work on any short comings you may have. If you are unfit start an exercise routine and get on a healthy diet. If you lack communication skills join a Toastmasters Club, take elocution lessons. The public library and your computer can assist you to improve your eligibility in achieving a better life. Smile, be kind and gracious do whatever it takes to make you shine in company.

Faulcombridge fountain.

Faulcombridge fountain.

This will increase your circle of friends and friends are invaluable. In the business world this is called networking and leads to valuable profits. Friends are worth more than gold in all walks of life. Understand there are no free gifts in life you have to work on self-improvement to better your prospects in life. Understanding life is not easy it is ever-changing in unpredictable ways. Expecting things to be always as we would like brings disappointment. What brings joy into your life is having the right attitude. Practice thinking clearly and being aware of your emotions. So you can accept a critical remark calmly and rationalize whether it is valid and constructive or destructive and hurtful. It is constructive if it shows you a fault you can work on to fix. If it is designed only to upset you it is better to smile and not acknowledge the insult. This will have a boomerang effect hurting the one who is hurtful. It is our choice how we react to all things if we take the time to consider the matter.

Behind the scenes.

Behind the scenes.

Staying calm under pressure is an important way to impress the right people. You have to put effort into being a nice person to attract nice people. You need the right qualities to succeed in any quest. Being constantly aware of your thoughts, emotions, speech and actions is not easy. You may need to practice meditation to calm those invasive thoughts that come into the mind uninvited like static on the radio. Success in finding the right partner will depend on how successful you are in your self-improvement. As the saying goes, ‘If you want a certain thing, first you must become a certain person. Then that certain thing is of no further concern of yours.’

Up front.

Up front.

If you follow steps in self-improvement you will benefit in many ways and not be disappointed. It is wanting and desires that drives us to great achievement. Unreasonable, greedy wanting can also bring much unhappiness if we are ignorant of the true nature of life. That the nature of life is not stable and it is impartial to our desires. We must go with the flow of nature it will not bend its laws to suit man. Wanting has to be balanced with need, wanting more than we need is greed and greed, laziness and hatred are the three things that destroy our happiness. Life is ever-changing work to stay in balance. If we can work in harmony with life in loving kindness we will find peace and contentment.

Nothing to hide.

Nothing to hide.

Riches and sex are subject to change all pleasures are fleeting. Caring and sharing are more stable. If you are looking for the perfect partner you must realize a perfect person will not tolerate your imperfections. You had better start working on any flaws in your character. I have found my perfect partner she is just perfect for me. She is easily satisfied; all she wants is a person to share life’s twists and turns, someone to share the laughter and the pain. She is wise and knows dependability and sincerity is better than money in the bank. Those handsome looks time erodes and it is hidden beauty in the heart that is important.

Another tail.

Telling tales about a tail.

I love to see beauty and am satisfied I do not need to possess it. As Robbie Burns wrote, ‘for pleasures are like poppies spread, you seize the flower the bloom is shed or like the snow-fall on the river, one moment white then lost forever.’ We can appreciate without owning something. Antique stores are like zoos to look is wonderful and you do not have the responsibility of housing, storing and caring for all you are enjoying.

Another artist took this photo I am in the photo can you see me?

I am somewhere in the picture.

I am somewhere in the picture.

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