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A smile and a peace sign make my day.

A smile and a peace sign make my day.

.We are One Family.

A paddle in a puddle make their day.

A paddle in a puddle make their day.

 Happiness is a by-product of having a purpose in life. Combined with the understanding life is not perfect. Seeking lasting happiness in an imperfect world is unrealistic. Pleasures are fleeting but understanding brings contentment.

Nourishment is important.

Nourishment is important.

 If we expect a pleasant sensation to last for ever we are in for disappointment.

Safety is important.

Safety is important.

Nothing lasts forever everything is subject to change. To be at peace we must not be over possessive it will bring sorrow. Let the caged bird free is the way to happiness.

Everyone is important.

Everyone is important.

To give rather than receive is to understand happiness grows by sharing. Possessions do not bring the joy we anticipated the pleasure soon passes and we are left still wanting.

Love and caring for self and others.

Love and caring for self and others.

An ideal purpose in life benefits oneself first and then extends to the those in our contact and from there radiate out to the whole world. To work on becoming a better person is a worthwhile purpose in life, it is of benefit to all.

Close family James, Jack, Jackson, Jason.

Close family James, Jack, Jackson, Jason.

No one is perfect so we will be busily engaged in this quest to improve. To keep busy enhances happiness. No time to worry about our self. Worry kills happiness and 90% of our worries never happen.

My daughter Vanessa home schools her 5 children.

My daughter Vanessa home schools her 5 children.

It is a win win situation to improve our knowledge and ethics. We are respected by others. Being honest and outgoing, no big ego trips, just being our authentic self improves our popularity with others.

Friends are flowers in your garden.

Friends are flowers in your garden.

Friends enhance our wellbeing, without friends life would lose its joy. We need to value every one as a potential friend. Everyone that comes into our life has feelings and a whole life that we may never know yet they are part of our world.

Everyone is an important part of your life.

Everyone is an important part of your life.

A new word that explains this idea is ‘sonder’.

Hit this link and take part in life’s joy.

Spreading happiness is important.

Spreading happiness is important.

I like this word it conveys my feeling that we are all interconnected and it is ignorance that separates us. So my quest is knowledge and understanding.

The passer by is Sondra.

The passer by is Sonda.

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My foot in on a wonderful world.

My foot in on a wonderful world.

Tolerance and respect..

on Newtons recommendation I am off to see the sea.

On Newtons recommendation I am off to see the sea.

I am not as clever as some may think so writing my blog is a challenge. Everything I write has been picked up from other people. Throughout my working career I took notice of those with the knowhow. Also I learned the value of nonfiction books. In recreational activities every skill that would help me in what I was trying to achieve, I would swat up on. No one can claim to be a self-made man.

As Sir Isaac Newton in 1679 is quoted as saying in a letter to Robert Hooke, “If I have seen further than others it was by standing on the shoulders of giants.” A similar observation was made earlier in 1159 by John of Salisbury in a book, written in Latin translated as. “We are like dwarfs sitting on the shoulders of giants.”

I am so fortunate.

I am so fortunate.

So we have a lot to thank those that showed us the way. Lau Tzu showed me one Way, Buddha showed me another Path. My belief is, whatever religious differences we have, we must practice tolerance and respect for others beliefs. Even if we cannot accept it all, there will be a lot we can agree on.

Who wants a chlorinated pool this needs no upkeep.

Who wants a chlorinated pool this needs no upkeep.

For peace and harmony in the world today we need to meet on this neutral ground.

Looking from Burleigh Headland to Surfers Paradise.

Looking from Burleigh Headland to Surfers Paradise.

All major religions preach loving kindness, morality and generosity. If we have faith in a God we should show our faith by keeping his commandments and not take over the divine reins of life and death. If you have faith and trust there is no need to take over this responsibility. Let your God do the driving, you have not got a licence to kill. This would be the right way to promote your religion.

Looking south to Coolangatta.

Looking south to Coolangatta.

Writing my blog required me to revise my ideas and rethink everything. This gave me a clearer understanding in my own mind. Owing to practically no schooling the English language was another learning curve. A blog is a lot more difficult than a job report. Even then I always had a dictionary on hand.

Clear water at Tallebudgera Creek bridge.

Clear water at Tallebudgera Creek bridge.

There is an incident that demonstrates this. At a meeting one of the engineers criticised my spelling. I immediately replied “I will scribble my report in future then the spelling will be less of a problem.” His writing was as difficult to decipher as a doctor’s prescription.

Everything changes look at the sky.

Everything changes look at the sky.

My blog helps me improve in more ways than one. Everything I decide to do is a benefit to me. If reading my blog inspires others to follow what I have found beneficial, that is a bonus.

On rush if it rains before I get home, it is not cold.

No rush if it rains before I get home, it is not cold.

That prompts another quote, from Little John Salisbury.”One who comprehends truth is wise. One who loves truth is good. One who orders his life by truth is happy”.

Selfies are in fashion.

Selfies are in fashion.

Buddhism reminds us of a universal truth “Everything is subject to change.” Aware of that truth will help you improve your happiness. As you will accept change and not cling to passing things.

A gift from our garden.

A gift from our garden, a Walking Iris grows easy from a cutting.

There is a lot I still have to pick up, while wandering along the vast ocean seashore. That is a more enjoyable pass-time than blogging. The sun is shining the surf is rolling in I am on my bike to enjoy these gifts of nature , have a nice day see you later.

Back home just before the rain.

Back home just before the rain.

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Book Inn..

Book Inn..

Slow down don’t slow up.

Lately I have been absorbed reading instead of writing. The books I have been reading have made me realise how little I know. And yet I am far more knowledgeable than I used to be, at least I now know how to enjoy life.

What else is it for?

What else is it for?

Knowing the unsatisfactory changing nature of life. I do not cling to things and am contented rather than happy. My lifelong goal is self improvement, acquiring knowledge rather than possessions.

I gave my copy away I went to the library revise.

 I went to the library to read it again I gave my copy away.

I would describe this as contentment rather than happiness. Learning to appreciation the good in my life.

 To make you smile.

To make you smile.

Ignorance is the cause of unhappiness. To enjoy life one must be disciplined in doing what is necessary to stay healthy in both body and mind. The one thing we should not be ignorant of is nothing lasts. Everything has a use by date.

You may not buy this one it is a gift.

You may not buy this one it is a gift, complements of Buddhist society Malaysia. 

We can prolong the life of things by maintaining them properly, then they will serve us well. To care for things we need the knowledge to know how. Over the years I have learned a few life skills.

It is no secret any more.

It is no secret any more.

I try to pass them on, but you can find better qualified writers than me. You just need to be very selective in sorting out whose opinion to follow. Is it fact or fiction, is it rubbish I am feeding my mind on? Both body and mind need wholesome nourishment to stay healthy.

1932 the bridge the hands I had to be in this photo.

1932 the bridge the hands and hope I had to be in this photo.

I am pleased how I am doing, keeping fit and inspiring others. They made me ‘member of the month’ at the Burleigh, World Gym. I was requested to write this comment. I now am fitted out in really smart gym cloths all part of the honour.

The matador, no bull.

The matador, no bull.

“Who is the old bloke sweating on the x trainer?”world gym

“That is Jack he used to be a construction worker, a rigger to be precise.”

Great game for a young bloke to earn a crust. Plenty of exercise climbing up on the steel purlins, riding the crane hook. Man those were the days before the safety regulations took all the buzz out of it.

The problem is if you do a good job they promote you. Most of the fun goes out of it and it can get stressful.

Tim wants to be like me, when he has been 83 years at the gym.

Tim wants to be like me, when he has been 83 years at the gym.

The way around that is go to a gym and get rid of the stress. Get the endorphin circulating, it is better than chocolate. Oh! You see eye candy everywhere in a gym, a treat for every taste, the blokes and the girls. The great people that you become friends with in a gym like World Gym, Burleigh, is another incentive to workout.

Note the caption on the wall.

Note the caption on the wall.

I am 83 but when I am mixing in with all these positive, fit people I can forget I am past my use by date. Three score and ten I never put too much faith in ancient writing and doctors are ok in an emergency but do not leave it up to them to keep you fit. You are better of at the gym.

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We will start off cool.

We will start off cool.

Habitual walking.

Cool morning Yoga meditation on Bondi Beach.

Cool morning Yoga meditation on Bondi Beach.

Habitual walking is not as Thich Nhat Hanh, in his beautifully written book “Peace is Every Step.“ describes walking. What he describes is actually walking meditation. If you are an active person you may prefer this rather than sitting.

Some habits are not wise.

Some habits are not wise when you are not so sure-footed.

Mindful walking is a cognitive process you are conscious and aware. If we repeat anything often enough it becomes a habit. This is very useful it enables us to become skilled operators. As long as we do not get too inattentive and become prone to problems.

It could have been worse.

It could have been worse.

Habitual actions describe how we fly through life in a fog. We do not actually see where we are going we are traveling on auto pilot. Our thoughts are on some thing in the future or past, not focused on what we are doing.  Meditation teaches us how to stay focused. Those thoughtless actions are the cause of pain and suffering.

A stitch in me wastes time, but helps healing.

A stitch in me wastes time, but helps healing.

The Buddha Siddhartha Gautama said the first step on The Eight Fold Path is Understanding, next is right thinking the next that automatically follows is right actions. Then he discusses right occupation The Buddha is only interested in getting you into a good job. By good he means harmless and beneficial.

This is a good clean job, not paid for sitting down.

This is a good clean job, paid for sitting up.

You may be more interested in getting a well-paid occupation. I would also advise doing what you enjoy to earn an honest crust. Then making dough is a pleasure. People often say what line of work are you in. They used to say out on the construction site, “What’s your game, mate?” Back then, in the good old days, before tight safety regulations took the virtuosity out of it. I would say, “I am a rigger.” I loved my high position looking down on everyone. I was a young show off and got my thrills riding on the crane hook.

Climbing up steps to operate a tower crane, we used to use the hook and climb in the window.

Climbing up steps to operate a tower crane, we used to use the hook and climb in the window, in the good old days.

The young extroverts today (I dare not call then show-offs) have to hoon-around to get a buzz. Putting the public in danger and they do not get paid for it. Instead it costs them, for petrol their motorbike or car and on top of that they get fined.

The police love hoons, they are keeping them in a good exciting job.

The police love hoons, they are keeping them in a good exciting job.

Well I suppose they could say, “It is better than walking.”

I should have been walking.

I should have been walking.

The next steps to consider are right effort, right concentration and mindfulness, not to stepping off the path. It is human to be unmindful and inevitable to step off the path. When we take a wrong step it is no good placing blame or fretting. Just pick yourself up and try again. The same as you do in meditation when your mind wanders.  You can falter but never fail to try.

It is safe in a sheltered harbour but ships were not made for that.

It is safe in a sheltered harbour but ships were not made for that.

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Do not believe all you see and hear.

Do not believe all you see and hear.

Question the Source.

He repeats anything he rears.

He repeats anything he hears.

A fact is something known to be true an opinion is something said by someone it could be true or false.

Who advises the politicians at Parliament House, the White House and all the little houses.

Who advises the politicians at Parliament House, the White House and all the little houses.

An opinion is what someone thinks. It could be incorrect because they were misinformed or are deliberately lying to influence you.

The Indigenes People  house at Canberra.

The Indigen0us People’s house at Canberra.

Question, have they an ulterior motive? Who is this person, can they be trusted, what are their qualifications and are they in a rational state of mind?

The other side of it.

The other side of it.

Assumptions and opinions can cause stress. Stress creates strong emotions and emotions strengthen our opinions. Someone walks past me in the street without speaking. Do I think, this person does not like me? This is not a fact; the fact is ‘they walked past me.’ It could be they did not see me. Knowing the facts helps us make wise unemotional decisions. We should ascertain if it is a fact, opinion, fiction, rumour, speculation or a lie before making a decision.

Respect is not too much to ask.

Respect is not too much to ask.

It may not be a proven fact and could be an opinion.  There are verifiable opinions, expert opinions and personal opinions. A Verifiable opinion is valid. An expert opinion is made by a person that has studied the subject and is an authority. A personal opinion, what a person believes is governed by his values, beliefs and emotions. We must ask where did this statement come from, did it come from the media? Then ask who owns the media, who has vested interest in these stories? An editor earns his living doing what the person in charge wants and he will be out of a job if he goes against the boss.

What a lot of garbage.

What a lot of garbage.

We need to think seriously about this because people like Rupert Murdoch own the media; you have to be sceptical when you know his history. It is interesting reading, though he would rather you read his newspaper or watch a soap opera on TV than read up on Wikipedia. This is an outline of what you will read on Wikipedia about him.

They have made a feature of it in Canberra.

They have made a feature of it in Canberra.

He inherited News Corporation, the second largest media conglomerate. He has been accused of hacking the phones of celebrities, royalty and the public. Refer to the Leveson Enquiry. He faced police and government investigation for bribery and corruption by the British Government and US FBI. He has a history of biased political support. If you like a love story there is something for you he has had three wives. The truth is hard to ascertain when we blithely listen to comment from the media.

There have been many distortions of the truth. I was told to fear people who are now our friends and trading partners. Any source of information that uses advertising to finance its operation is to be questioned. Do not believe all you see and hear no matter where it came from. Although this is my personal opinion, as I am not on anyone’s pay-roll.  You should still question it, by searching out the facts from a reliable source.

This is a better way.

This is a better attitude.

 

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Bark of Cork Oak.

Bark of Cork Oak.

The Way to Go.

Flowing water'

Flowing water’

 Wanting respect is the ego. Earning respect is gratifying; gratitude is appreciation of all the good surrounding us. This good does not come uninvited it must be encouraged by noble effort. Everything is interrelated, every action has a like reaction. Nothing exists alone, everything is interconnected. The ego’s wanting is the cause of our discontent this causes much of our unhappiness. Everything is in the flux of change, this is a natural law. Not to be in tune with this natural flow is to fight with the inevitable. Peace and contentment cannot be found in conflict.

leaves jc

Sharing what I have found helpful, in my life experience and other people’s writing, I would like to pass on to others.  I have found much joy in this troubled world only because I have searched for knowledge. Ignorance is another cause of our sorrow. I have learned in life’s school of personal experience that happiness cannot be found at the expense of the world around us. Now aware that my obsessive desires for the unnecessary things brought costs I had not envisaged.  The cost of storage, maintaining and protecting those unnecessary things added to the initial cost. Extravagance by the greedy creates envy in the needy, gratifying the egos wanting causes much unhappiness.

ATM then shop till you drop.

ATM then shop till you drop.

Caring and sharing and endeavouring to overcome our faults leads to peace and contentment. The quest for peace and contentment should be our lifelong goal. Found by practicing noble ethics from all dogmas. Ethics obscured by religious hierarchies arguing about minor technicalities in their power struggle for supremacy. We must put these differences aside and get to the basic worthy points of agreement.  Equanimity is the ability to remain calm in the midst of turmoil, free from unproductive emotions. The quest to become a better person by learning our faults and trying to stop repeating them should be our reason to live. Pleasures are fleeting, joy and happiness never lasts, peace, contentment and equanimity are a more worthy and lasting goal.

Soft early morning mist.

Soft early morning mist.

This is my belief and I am grateful to have found much more peace and contentment following this philosophy. I may never reach my ultimate goal of perfect peace, contentment and equanimity in my life on earth.  Ironically wanting this state would cause me grief. It is a great quest that keeps me occupied and I know when I transcend this life this perfect state will be reached. Returning to the great unknown from where I came, perhaps returning home to join the vastness of infinity. At the end of my day I will be ready to rest in oblivion or paradise in the unknown.

flowers

The way to go is to keep an open mind and feed the mind on the most ethical and wholesome examples available. If you eat rubbish your physical health will suffer and you will not be able to carry out your obligations. Whatever your senses absorb will reflect in your actions. Food, entertainment and all you encounter has an effect on the development of your character. This is the law of action and reaction, force creates a like response. You reflect life as a mirror except in more depth. It is no good being superficial you cannot accept a complement when it is not directed at what you know to be truly you. Do not hide behind subterfuge or you will never know truth.

A natural Aussie White Cockatoo.

A natural Aussie White Cockatoo.

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Does Mother need more cloths or would she rather you took her on a picnic.

Does Mother need more cloths or would she rather you took her on a picnic.

The Cure.

It is MADNESS but some will not see.

It is MADNESS but some will not see.

What is the cure for the stress in the fast pace modern world?

We could pray.

We could pray.

 Is the detrimental effect the commercial system has on the environment causing us anxiety? Are we worrying that our protesting and complaining is futile against the multinational take over? Are we frustrated because advertising has invaded every available public space, as well as our home?

We could just drop out of the rat-race.

We could just drop out of the rat-race.

 Should we just sit back and let the TV ads induce us to buy things we do not need?  Advertising plays on our ego enticing us to buy superfluous things, brand names are only superfluous status symbols. Ads keep us working at the treadmills turning the wheels of production. It is a vicious circle this tread mill, known as ‘the rat race’. How can one escape?

You may think I am full of rubbish.

You may think I am full of rubbish.

There is a way to stop this stress, it has been around for 2500 years, but The Buddha’s philosophy has been distorted. There is another easier way to escape the ‘rat race’. I could write volumes explaining this method and not do it as good as putting in a few link, for you to click on. If you are interested in taking some steps that will benefit you, the environment and the community in general, look at these links.

This is all unnecessary rubbish.

This is all unnecessary rubbish.

Books are better than passive TV watching. Most worthwhile things in life take an effort. Make the small effort to hit these links and learn what they have to say and from there to further helpful reading links.

Can you see, 'we are living in this as if there was another to go to.'

Can you see, ‘we are living on this planet as if there is another one to go to.’

We would all like to help right the wrongs in the world.

I ask myself, what am I doing, helping or hindering the problems in the world today?

I do not sign partitions or join in protests, I do write my blog, but is appealing to others going to fix anything.

I actually do nothing because this is an important concept in Taoism. What Lau Tzu calls ‘wu wei’: the action of non-action.

who said you need shoes like these?

Who said you need shoes like these?

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