It is difficult to write our thoughts and convey the ideas we have in our mind. It is even harder to find the right words when speaking. Without time to think we comment on subjects that we have no firsthand knowledge of. We often accept things we read or hear without a thought as to the origin. Then confidently repeat something totally ignorant of the validity of what we are saying. When someone disagrees with us the ego wants to step in and argue. I have said and argued without thinking many times and have to be mindful when socializing or I still fall into this trap. Once something is said unlike the written word there is no deleting or erasing, no second thoughts.
Four of the steps on the Buddha’s Eight Fold Path are, Right understanding. Right thoughts and Right speech, steps we have to be mindful of, or fall into this trap. Right mindfulness is another important step on the path to enlightenment. The distractions of life make it so easy to stray from the path.
Life can be fully enjoyed when we realize the true nature of things. One of the things we must be aware of is all things are subject to change. The beautiful flower soon withers and becomes compost to nourish new life. Picking and clinging to the flower will not change natures plan, it is beyond our control and to fight this only brings us pain. This is the nature of things, we must cooperate.
To love anything is a joy, but to cling to love is a mistake. The people we love are capable of hurting us the most, when we are separated from them we worry or miss them, there is always this down side to life. Our children grow up; we must let them go as we do not own them. In fact we do not own anything it is all on loan, when, like the flower, our life is over, we will become food for new life. Are you thinking Jack is full of what is good for the garden?
We can have all the joy, happiness and pleasure and less unhappiness when we realize there is a price to pay for everything and it is not in dollar bills we pay, it is in good deeds, kindness and compassion. Life is a garden; whatever you put into it is what you will get out of it. Wanting all those material things will not bring contentment, they only bring a fleeting happiness, then the realization of their downside, they need maintenance, storage, they chip, dent, wear out, need I go on. We do not want all the down side, all the problems, and try to avoid them. Life is one thing after another, we are always wanting or avoiding, running to or from, never contented.
Pleasures lift you up and then they drop you down, the higher you go, the further you fall. Calm is not very exciting, actually boring to youth, they still, usually, have the resilience to rebound. What a dull world without that youthful, exuberant energy. As the joints lose their flexibility and spring we like tranquility. The old need to make some allowance for youth and remember when they were young. The young have no personal experience of the ravages of time on the human body. Actually they have not had much experience at all and what experience they have had is unlike previous generations. So pleasure is a youthful thing.
Happiness, we all like to be happy, we strive to be happy, and we work and toil to be happy. Ironically, chasing after happiness, we miss the happiness now. Happiness has to be experienced in the now. If you are happy in your occupation you will never have to toil. Work is a joy if we regard it in the right way, by taking a pride in what we are doing and not rushing to finish it to do something else.
To provide your needs, find a job that will promote good and benefit all. Do it to the best of your ability, it will bring you rewards that money cannot buy, satisfaction, respect, trust and friends. Happiness depends on the now and the circumstances prevailing, sometimes things are beyond our control and happiness will not always happen. Happiness is more reliant on the outside. Contentment is a state of mind even when adversity challenges us we can overcome it with the right attitude.
To lose something we value is bad but not to accept the loss and fret about it is only compounding the pain. We can be in pain but we do not have to suffer.
Contentment is the greatest happiness. Health is the greatest wealth. Love is the greatest conqueror. Understanding is the greatest.