What precisely is love? As a parent it is to cherish, hold dear and protect. As a child it is attachment and need that grows into feelings of affection. Then feelings of longing for and desiring things begins, children know how to love without reservation. Some never grow out of these wanting ways. Their love matures into innocent romantic love, maturing into deep emotions of sexual attraction and intense desire. These feelings are reptilian impulses that need conscious thought to control them. Without mutual understanding and caring fondness it is not love, but lust. Lasting love endures with trust, unselfishly caring and sharing all life’s experiences, the joys and sorrows, helping in every way to promote a priceless friendship.
As time passes it is a universal truth that all things change, love is no exception. Like all things without care and attention love will fade and die. Lovelorn and lonely, like in tennis a score of zero is love; you lose because you did not put enough into the game. All games have rules. In the game of love the rules are warmth and kind attention at all times for love to grow and flourish. If you want love you must be a loving person, if you want respect you must be respectable. It is true ‘as you sow so you reap.’ it has been said in many ways by many renowned sages. It is the basic idea of karma in life, your deeds, both good and bad, will automatically rebound in a like manner.
Love can be described as a great fondness, this could have inherent problems. We want or desire what we are fond of so, as I mentioned, desires need to be controlled. That romantic puppy love, the embracing, cuddling kissing can lead to problems for the young uninformed. They are not bad; they are ignorant of the gravity and all the ramifications they are in need of understanding. Wanting is not only a problem with sexual desires, many cravings need controlling. All things in excess are harmful. Moderation and balance are needed. To love food and eat in excess of the body’s needs brings health problems. Balance the calories eaten to the calories burning in exercise done. Wanting more than we need is greed. Ironically love is linked to wanting and greed. Actually it is excessive wanting and greed that brings bad karma.
These are down to earth thoughts on love. I will leave the worship, adoration and devotional love to the believers in a benevolent God to explain. I love the world the way it is. I do not love the way our wanting is changing the world faster than nature intended. Love has both wondrous aspects and adverse features. The word love is stretched beyond its limits we need to qualify all the different forms of love. Then use mindfulness, moderation, balance and understand all the aspects of love. Love is intrinsic to our human needs, we need love to exist. We need to consider love in all our dealings. Most of all we need to understand love, if not we will be deeply hurt. If hurt by love it will be because of lack of understand.
Love is freedom, needing and possessing is not love this is pain and suffering. Love is being sensitive to all we encounter in life. Life is a love song to enjoy without wanting, clinging or attachment. Let the music play and enjoy the entire performance not only your favorite guitar rift. Nature gives her free gifts out of love for all that appreciate. Nature makes no judgments on who deserves, people either appreciate and enjoy or ignore and miss natures example of love. The sun shines warmth on all of life without favor as the rain falls on both the needy parched earth and the ocean. When one picks up a broken bottle off the beach, it is not known who may be saved from pain. There is no reward other than the joy of knowing someone may benefit. This is a simple act of human love.